You know, working with the CWPC to put these books together has inspired me to realize just how much my idea of the fantasy man has evolved over the years. I mean, on the surface, these are just a bunch of sweet-talkin’ studs with cleaning supplies, but actually, there’s a wiser message buried beneath the smart duds and tight pants that really resonates with me—about what we gals with experience deserve.

When I was 25, I craved someone who was good in bed; now I need a good lover—those are such completely different things. And looks used to be key for me, but now they’re only somewhat significant. Basically, what once was an outer thing is now an inner thing. When it comes right down to it, I want someone who will appeal to my soul, not just my eyes. He should fit with my lifestyle and my goals and support what I do in my career and personal life. I need a partner rather than a player!

In fact, I remember I didn’t give a damn about where his money came from as long as he had a job. But these days I want someone who’s passionate about what he does for a living. Of course, intelligence and humor were always important to me, but now I desire a higher quality of man.

Many young women pine for a guy who’s a “Man”—so they’re often lured in by the guy who talks loudly and draws attention to himself. Now that I’ve been around the block a bit, I fall for the quiet confidence of a man who’s comfortable with himself and has nothing to prove to anyone else. He knows who he is, and he’s satisfied with it.

Yes, I’ve always had a thing for intense men with passionate personalities. But, now I won’t settle for less than a passionate guy who isn’t afraid to show me his authentic (and therefore hottie) self.

Tell me, who’s your fantasy man of the moment?